Being Addicted to Emotional Pain
This is a very funny fact that some women are actually addicted to emotional pain.
I am pretty sure that all of you know or at least knew a woman who had a very abusive boyfriend. She would always talk about her pains and sufferings and how she is being treated like crap all the time.
I have listened to so many sorties like the one above and throughout the whole time there was only one thing that I could say to her which was – “JUST LEAVE HIM”.
Now then, here comes their funny response to that which is always something along the lines of “it is very complicated”.
Of course there are many feelings involved, of course there is a great amount of attachment, and of course you share so many memories and experiences together.
BUT if you have no children together, if you are still not married THEN why in the WORLD would you keep the relationship going if you see it is going absolutely nowhere?
Why would you risk the rest of your life and stay with someone who has barely 1% chance of changing and becoming a better person. Now please don’t tell me “because he is the one”. If he is really “the one” then you have made a very crappy choice and we have a bigger problem than the one we are talking.
Now I am not saying that if you have a simple argument then you should leave the guy that is NOT what I am saying. What I AM saying is if you are constantly getting your feelings hurt then dump the guy.
Some girls are scared of it because their boyfriends are very controlling and dominant but that is not the topic of our discussion. I am talking about about girls who are constantly going back to their old, broken, and painful relationships knowing exactly well that they are going to get hurt again and again and again.
This leaves me with a conclusion that girls who do this are actually addicted to their emotional pain. After doing some research I have actually found that an actual definition exists for these types of situations and it is called emotional masochism.
This is a very interesting phenomenon because the more I have gotten into it the more I have found out that it is not only girls who do this but guys as well. There are many different scenarios where this occurs. For example there are actually guys who only go out with girls that they know will cheat on them.
Morale of this article is this: if you ever meet a person whether a man or a woman who constantly talks about their painful relationship then all you have to do is either make up an excuse to leave or just sit through it. Giving them advice is not going to help and they will most probably not even hear you. What they want is to get hurt and then share their pain. That’s all!
Stay tuned for more articles folks :)