How to Stop Being a Loser
You know what the short answer is? Don’t be a loser. Simple as that.
Are you mad because I am not giving you a terribly long essay about how to change your behaviors and thinking patterns? Are you mad that I don’t have it all in nice steps for you? Well be mad.
The reason I am giving it to you in a short and simple format is to prevent you from over analyzing because that’s what really kills ya.
Stop over analyzing stop thinking negatively about yourself, stop for a moment. Just stop and sit down somewhere and if you are already sitting down then just stop and by stopping I mean slow down your thoughts, try to clear your mind.
Now that you have cleared it all out let me ask you something? How do you think someone who is NOT a loser is different from you? What is the MAIN thing that differentiates you from him or her. Is it the clothes? Is it the cool car? Is it the swagger? Is the social group that he or she is in? What is it really? Ask yourself that please and ask yourself that question honestly.
I’ll give you some time for it. Think for a while…
Assuming that you took your time and thought about it (but most probably you didn’t and you are just continuing your reading) I will now give you the answer. You know what it is? MINDSET. That’s right, it’s the mindset nothing else. He or she BELIEVES that he or she is cool, you on the other hand BELIEVE that you are a loser.
As you see both being cool or being a loser come from the same place, that being the place of your inner beliefs. I don’t know what happened to you in your life but most probably something happened which lead you to believe that you are not good enough. This mostly happens to people who are sensitive and that is absolutely fine, there is nothing wrong with that.
Now the ONLY way I can help you is to tell you that you need to start taking baby steps to change your beliefs about yourself. That’s all. Unless you somehow magically snap out of your “I am such a loser” role and transfer yourself into “I am the man” role which most of the time does not happen, but hey there is no harm in trying.
We BECOME the role that we play. Remember that! If you believe that you are a badass and you play that role for a while then you will stick to that role and it will feel true to your nature. We are not what we think we are because in fact we are NOTHING, all we are is an accumulation of memories, thoughts, perspectives and beliefs. The greatest thing about us human beings is that we also have AWARENESS which gives us the power to CHANGE ourselves.
So wake up, and start taking baby steps such as joining different groups and clubs, socializing with others, working on your style, working on your movement, educating yourself about this world, making friends and learning about their differences, making friends not just with your own gender but also with the opposite and learning about their similarities and differences.
This world is such a vast and mysterious place that there is NO time to be trapped in this “I am a loser” role. You are not a loser, you are not cool, you are NOTHING. The only thing you are is what YOU want yourself to be consciously.
Go out there and explore this world, when you do that these type of problems will disappear from your life.