Nice Guys vs Bad Boys vs Gentlemen
I think that these categories are constantly being confused by people – mostly girls.
Nice guys are not the same as bad boys (I am only using this phrase because most people know what it means and I don’t have to explain myself any further) and those two are entirely different from the gentleman. They are all single, separate categories that have their own characteristics and in this article I want to show that the best type is the gentleman type.
Let’s talk about all of them one by one.
What does it mean to be a nice guy? Does it mean that one is nice to everyone INCLUDING women and that attitude just comes out of one’s heart without having any expectations in return? Well there are times when it is true but those are rare exceptions.
MOST of the times these so called nice guys are simply nice to women because they expect something in return which is sex. They are simply scared to show their true feelings.
Now that their game is broken down into a diagram we can see that the attitude of being nice does NOT come from their heart. It is NOT genuine. Some girls, very few, fall for this either because they are tiered of bad boys or they feel appreciated.
This feeling of appreciation quickly disappears as the time goes by because they do not feel the masculine presence in their relationship. Being nice can only last for so long but women are evolutionarily designed to feel security and comfort when being with their partner. Nice guys lack confidence and it ruins their relationships.
Now let us talk about the bad boys. How are they bad and why do women fall for this type more often than they fall for the nice guy type?
Bad boys are confident, more spontaneous and more extroverted. They know their value and so they don’t put girls on a pedestal. This alone makes them extremely attractive to the opposite sex.
In this case honesty once again is not very transparent because most times guys will confess fake feelings just to get what they want. This however is MUCH better than the technique the nice guy uses because a bad boy will not waste his time if he realizes that the girl does not reciprocate. Nice guys don’t get those signals because they don’t know what those signals are due to lack of experience.
Now my opinion after all these years is that the gentleman type is the best one out there (by the way I am not saying that one HAS to apply himself/herself to a group I am just saying that when we categorize people we are BOUND to fall into a certain group whether we want to or not).
Gentleman type could be thought of as the hybrid of the nice guys and the bad boys but on a much more honest and genuine level. Here is what I mean.
A gentleman does not have any convoluted, circuitous, dishonest ways of luring the girl into the bedroom. He is honest with himself and with everyone around him. If he wants something he goes after it. This applies to the opposite sex as well.
When a gentleman wants to be in a relationship he makes it clear for the girl that he has strong feelings for her. If he does not have feelings and only looks for pleasure then he makes that clear as well.
Gentleman type is confident, spontaneous, extroverted but also humble, controlled, thoughtful and GENUINELY nice.
A gentleman has BEEN a nice guy and then turned into a bad boy but now he is a new breed of a man.
Chivalry is not dead ladies it is just evolving.
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