Teacher Named Guilt

Dec 14, 2012 by

Teacher Named Guilt

Something interesting I have realized today that is we feel guilty at times in order to realize something out of it. Once the realization comes to us guilt disappears.

I guess guilt is another type of learning tool – well at least for me.

Rules are written due to a realization of crossing of a certain line/limit. When a line is crossed, guilt is always present. Sometimes people overcome the guilt because their curiosity is stronger but in most cases it does not bring any luck.

Some people can accept the rules and live with that, but I am a type of person that has to go all the way to the limit, stand there and see himself why it was considered to be a limit. I learn so much that way – experience is priceless you know.

I don’t treat guilt as a negative feeling rather I look at it as a compass or a guiding tool for life. Evolution gave us that marvelous compass because we have been lost for so long.

This post was not meant to be long. I just wanted to introduce a new way of looking at guilt.

Don’t let it torture you, let it teach you.

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  • JTomlinson

    Well, I don’t believe in evolution, but I do believe guilt is a good way to know if you’ve crossed a line or not. In Psychology they teach that if you feel guilt or stress over something, you either have to change what you’re doing to alleviate the guilt, or change your views to ‘feel better’ about what you’re doing. I generally stop doing whatever it is I was doing that made me feel guilty. Good post.

  • Dan

    So true! I often feel guilt, even when it isn’t necessary, as it tends to help me either understand a situation better, or it helps me potentially think of a way I could have done something better. This way, next time a similar situations comes around, I will be more than able to act in the best way possible.

    • You got it right my friend thank you for the reply :)

  • If quilt didn’t have it’s purpose, we wouldn’t have it. I think you are right, and we shouldn’t stifle our guilt as long as we are learning a lesson from it. I hate it when people say “it was in the past so forget about it” When we have done something wrong, I think we should want to repair the damage done. To stifle our guilt, stifles realization that we need to to do that. Forgiveness is great…but I think it is taken advantage of way too often.

    • InnovaTonic

      Absolutely, forgiveness is sometimes an excuse because the pain is too great. One should look at one’s guilt, accept it, learn and move on. That’s the way it should be done.

  • Sandra

    True, very true, guilt can be a type of learning tool. However, when, why, and how we feel guilt is all relative to the way we’ve been brought up from childhood and because of that sometimes guilt can be a very bad measuring stick to know exactly what the limit should be. I’d say that while maybe for about half the world’s population guilt might be a good way to draw a line to your actions, I think the other half might need a little more than that to make the right call.

  • fringster

    I couldn’t agree more. Guilt is also what shapes us and makes up learn from our mistakes.

    • InnovaTonic

      Absolutely :)

  • Kasey

    Guilt can be a very valuable tool in a lot of ways, even though it’s still an initially unpleasant experience for most. I was told to look at it this way : Feelings of guilt mean that you feel there was something you could have done about the situation, which means that you still feel a sense of control over the situation, and therefore you have a healthy, self focused locus of control. You can retain that, and use the guilt you feel to make sure that you don’t repeat the same mistake in the future, and therefore make your mistake a positive learning experience. Oversimplified perhaps, but it helped me a great deal!

  • Mike

    I really like that positive spin on guilt. It’s really hard to face a mistake that you’ve made, especially when it can’t be undone and the damage kind of spins out of your control. I’ve heard people say that no action is pointless, even if it’s a mistake. I always have a hard time letting my mistakes go, and guilt is hard for me to deal with. Thanks for this post, it’s really helpful for what I’m going through right now.

  • Brian P

    This is silly. Guilt happens not only when someone does something “wrong” but also when they are taught that what they do/are is “wrong”. Guilt can be forced upon a child or anyone who can’t reason well, or is emotionally unstable. It is a manipulative strategy used by people who can’t find a positive reason to encourage helpful behavior.

    There is no positive spin on guilt. If you feel guilt it is because your brain or spirit has figured out that what you are doing is harmful to yourself or others. If you don’t feel guilt it doesn’t make you a bad person, just one that doesn’t have this cultural value. If you cross a line then you face consequences but they are rational ones not an emotional one.

    • InnovaTonic

      What’s silly?

      All I am saying in my article is that guilt could be looked at as a learning tool because it makes one realize and question things – such as WHY am I feeling guilt? WHAT is it that MAKES me feel guilty?

      When one asks these types of questions one LEARNS and DEVELOPS one’s personality, mentality and evolves beyond that specific event/action/mindset which made one guilty in the first place – hence the title.