When Two Leaders Meet
Observing human behavior, reading the classics and experiencing certain things in my life I came to my final conclusion that there is only two types of people in this world. Followers and leaders – that’s all there is to it. Maybe they can branch out further but the point is that their first taxonomy is either followers or leaders.
Please keep in mind that when I say a leader I don’t mean a president I mean someone who has leadership qualities and same goes with the follower.
Now here are some funny things I have also noticed. When a follower meets a leader he or she recognizes their type either consciously or unconsciously (most of the time unconsciously). When the type is recognized then out of that the follower starts playing his or her role. They listen, obey, learn and respect the leader.
The best example and the simplest example could be considered kids in high schools. There is always a leader who is either physically larger, more developed mentally, or simply wiser for whatever reasons and he or she is considered the leader of the group. Other members of the group look up to that individual. Most of the time nobody even SPEAKS of them being the leader however deep down all the other members of the group know about it.
Leaders are rarer to find than followers and if not from experience then simply from common sense you should know that it is true.
Leaders are individuals and they don’t need a group to feel secure even though they don’t MIND being in a group. The difference is that they don’t OBEY the rules of that group because they know that they are unique. They know that those rules are artificial and that they don’t need to prove themselves to anyone.
Leaders exude confidence and intelligence. They know how to take control of the situation and bend it down to their will. They always need to be respected by others because they KNOW they have done things in their life which are difficult to achieve.
What happens when two leaders meet? Can they be friends? Let’s look into it.
When two leaders meet from the FIRST point on they realize who the other one is. When that happens either both of them become defensive or they become curious. They realize the threat or the quality of the person and recognize that it is not just another follower.
When I say defensive I don’t mean that they are ready to fight each other (even though in some cases it is true) what I mean is they are defensive of their “leader title”. There are times when one leader takes over another leader (mostly when an argument is won) and that leader now becomes a follower because he/she has been broken.
This first case mostly happens when both leaders have aggressive personalities.
When they are calmer they become curious of the other and want to get to know them. They become interested in the other’s quality and experience. In this case even though they are curious they are still cautious because they know there could be a threat.
If they realize that the other leader is not trying to take over then caution disappears and after that if both of them have equal amount of respect for each other than a wonderful, amazing type of friendship could blossom. If there is no respect or lack of respect from either party THAN caution will come back and curiosity will turn into defensiveness.
Bottom line is that it takes a lot of patience, energy, understanding and RESPECT for two leaders to be able to have a healthy and long-lasting friendship.
This is so fascinating to write about because it shows the similarities between us and the animal kingdom and how evolution is a nifty, amazing, unique engine which made life come about.
If for some reason you felt offended by this article then I genuinely apologize. I just keep things real because that is the only way I can write what comes out of my heart, faking would defeat the purpose of this website.
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